A Week of Snits

In the office where I work, where I spend roughly 37.5 hours of my life every week, we all seem to get along most of the time. To our clients coming in, it's a form of purgatory(maybe even one of the rings of Hell), but behind the wall separating them from us, it's a friendly place, with a fair amount of jocularity going on throughout our workday. I used to say that amid all the stress(mostly from dealing with the clients)I had a good hearty laugh there every day. 

Of course, being people(and therefore largely ego-driven), we have our differences on occasion. Someone will be offended by something somebody else says or does, and the silent treatment goes into effect. And, not unlike some of the issues we deal with and their periods of effectiveness, these can have different durations, different expiration dates. I witnessed one, some years back, that ran 2 weeks. The person giving said silent treatment told me this, with some sense of pride. Weird...

I dunno. That's a bit too much drama for me. I had someone turn  frigidaire on me over a phone call they didn't want to take, and after about 3 days of this silliness, I asked them a question about something completely unrelated, and we instantly moved on. 

Still, when somebody pisses you off, even if you understand  intellectually that it(usually) has much more to do with them than with you, you're still bugged emotionally, and thus it's good to have that period of - silence-, to get the hell away from them for a minute. With me, it's usually about a day. By then, it's run its course. 

Yes, I experienced something along this line myself  during the workweek. And, as described, it was over and done with in the course of a day. Like I said, I don't like a lot of drama, in or out of the workplace.   

There is another snit going on in the office this week, another Cold War, but at least it's quiet. It does, however, silence the music that would ordinarily be emanating from that side of the room, as well as the good ol' boy jocularity(there's that word again). Well, hopefully this will resolve itself, and they will once again be a happy row of workers.. 

I am grateful that even though we have our occasional spats, we're a relatively drama-free office. Seems like the histrionics we have had were usually due to one or two individuals at a time. There are of course those folks who seem to thrive on it, and thank goodness they've been a minority. 

We had one such lady in our office over this last year or so, who was mad at somebody over something on almost a daily basis: with me, my infractions included yawning too much, and having the wrong kind of plate for eating popcorn.  Heinous crimes, to be sure. And her occasional silent treatment was my punishment. Naturally, if you have someone this easily offended, you're gonna have someone else with a proclivity toward offending others who will be on them like bark on a tree. 

Well we do, and his remark du jour was usually delivered first thing in the morning, after which she would storm off to her office. To her credit, she did possess(however eclipsed)the priceless ability to laugh at oneself, and eventually saw the humor in the situation. And it is tough when the joke's "on you"..  

My friend David Hoffman, who played in the Ray Charles Orchestra for some years, said that kind of thing went on all the time between players, where one wouldn't speak to the other for the whole tour. He told me about two such players, where finally one picked the other up in the air(he was about 6'5")and kissed him on the lips, saying, "I think we should kiss and make up". This was pretty much in front of the whole band, all of whom broke up laughing. 

So I had to ask, "did that put them back on speaking terms?"  
"Oh yeah. Steve(the kissee)laughed too. But then the next week he was mad at somebody else, and not speaking to them."

Oy vey......